This Is How Kids Really Feel About The Holidays

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Holiday stress statistics tell us that trying to have the most magical time of the year can be stressful and anxiety inducing for all, children included.

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Children And The Holidays

December is a magical time of year for most of us. The snow, the lights, the holidays. But trying to create a perfect holiday season can also be anxiety inducing. Holiday stress statistics have long shown us that this is true for adults, which was not a surprise to those of us who have been hurriedly scheduling, wrapping, and cocktail mixing our way through December for years. But now researchers —and parents— are realizing that holiday stress for children is a very real thing. On VProud there is an amazing video and conversation about a little girl named Ella who found herself at the tippy top of Santa's naughty list in a tongue-in-cheek article on The Huffington Post. Needless to say, the humor was lost on Ella. We put a lot of pressure on our kids to behave and dress and act certain ways during this time of year. And perhaps, all of the above is not only unnecessary, but also counter-intuitive to the magic that we are trying to create. Mother and author, Andrea Gribble, reflects on this topic from the perspective of what she thinks that our kids really want and need for the holidays. Take a look at Andrea's thoughts below. We love them and think that you will, too.

—The VProud Team

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The Best Gift I Can Give To My Kids This Christmas

By Andrea Gribble For VProud

I know I’m not the first person to suggest that the best gifts cannot be bought, or that they come from family time together and the memories we make. But those family memories are starting to take on a different look. I’m a mom to two daughters and four stepsons, and both my husband and I are business owners.

Our family time might mean a room full of people, but we’re all staring at an individual screens instead of connecting with each other. And who’s to blame? Well, it’s time to take responsibility. It’s my fault.

As much as I want to blame my kids for wanting to spend more time watching YouTube than talking with me at the supper table, I can’t. I have to admit that when my kids get home from school and want to tell me something important, I find myself looking at my phone for that important e-mail I’m expecting. Or I’m browsing through Facebook to see what people I don’t even really care about are doing with their families. Or I’m trying to write a blog post while they are begging for something to eat.

I’m making a commitment this year to give my kids my full attention. And I don’t mean worrying about tweeting a snippet of their solo during the Christmas program. I mean really being present and focusing my eyes and ears on them, and keeping my hands off of my cell phone.

I need to make a concerted effort to shift things back to real connection. To where eating out is a time to talk and not a chance to share the latest funny photo we found on Instagram. To when we can have a family game night of Charades or Catch Phrase without someone checking their phone. Where we make real eye contact. When we take the time to give hugs.

I’m not saying it’s going to be easy, but it certainly can fit inside anyone’s budget. And I truly think it is a priceless gift.

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About the author: Andrea Gribble is the author of, "The Von Awesome Family In A Digital Daze," a book that helps kids understand why technology balance is important from a child’s perspective. She offers resources to help your family at and she is also the owner of #SocialSchool4EDU, a social media training and management company for schools. Follow her journey of raising kids in a digital world on Facebook and Twitter. Join Andrea's honest conversations on VProud.

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