Conscious Parenting Just Might Be The Most Important Skill Parents Need Today

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Many women wonder am I a good mom and ask how to be a good mom. The answer to these questions can be found in learning the conscious parenting definition.

On VProud there is a beautiful video and conversation titled, "A Mother's Prayer For Her Daughter': Do you have secret wishes for your daughter?" In it, Tina Fey's iconic A Mother's Prayer for Her Child is read and illustrated by a young girl for her senior thesis project at Tyler School of Art. While all of Tina's prayers, thoughts, and wishes for her daughter resonate, it is the act of consciously knowing what it is that we want for our kids that really struck a chord with us and made this video so very stick-to-your-ribs good for us. Mother, podcaster, and VProud blogger Denise LaRosa reflects on this topic as a mom who is trying to transform from the everyday haziness that we all tend to fall back on into what is best described as becoming a conscious parent. Denise explains the conscious parenting definition so perfectly and accessibly and her essay really resonated with us in the same way that Tina's Prayer did — when we are purposeful and conscious of what we are doing, we are already taking a step toward where we want to be. Many women ask how to be a good mom and even wonder am I a good mom. The amazing news is that just the act of becoming a conscious parent makes these questions easier to answer. And for the record, yes. Yes, you are a good mom. Tina and Denise say so.

—The VProud Team

This Is How To Be A Conscious Parent

By Denise LaRosa on VProud

To be conscious is to be aware of one’s own existence, sensations, thoughts, surroundings. it is to be awake. Being fully aware or sensitive to something is not an easy task in this day and age. We live in a world that is full of escape-isms, whether it is your smart phone, a video game, a movie, or even a vacation, our culture thrives off of living life virtually asleep. As parents, we cannot afford to live life this way. Our children deserve more. We deserve more.

I am the mother of a three year old and a one year old. My girls are 21 months apart, so you can imagine what my days and nights look like. I often joked about being “numb” and “floating” through my day, while surviving off of one to three cups of coffee. 

But then I came across Dr. Shefali Tsabary’s teachings and books, and made a “conscious” decision to not only change my rhetoric, but to change my parenting style as well. 

You see, I thought that my “presence” equaled being present in my girls’ lives, but this is often not the case. All too often, we parents are constantly at-the-ready for reacting to whatever our children dish out at us — an answer to one of our questions, our response to a particular behavior, and so on. This is not how a conscious parent should operate. 

I have made the conscious decision to live life in the moment to the best of my ability, to not take my own frustrations or agenda out on my children, and to instead embrace my girls for who they are, celebrating their uniqueness and walking through this journey of life with them, not for them.

I encourage you to take this journey with me. We won’t get it “right” every time, and that’s OK! In fact, there is not one right or wrong way to practice conscious parenting. It’s not about condemning ourselves and focusing on what we’re doing “wrong.” 

It’s about living life awake, taking every moment — joys and challenges — and using them as life lessons that will open the door to peace and full awareness of the beauty that dwells between you and your children. Life is truly sweet that way.

About the author: Denise LaRosa is a VProud blogger. She is a wife and the mother of two precious girls. Being a mother has led her to becoming the founder and CEO of Mom Talk with Denise LaRosa, LLC, a multimedia platform designed to motivate, inspire and inform mothers. Denise utilizes my parenting experiences and background as an elementary educator with a Masters degree in education to bring mothers invaluable resources and information on parenting. Check out Denise's top iTunes podcast and blog at Mom Talk With Denise LaRosa. Join Denise's honest conversations on VProud.

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